How fit are you?

What comes to mind when you say "fit"?

For most people, it's related to health and fitness. In England, it can mean that or it can mean 'hot'. So it can describe somebody's physique internally and externally.

Here's my next question: Are you fit? In either meaning. Or possibly a better question, do people regard you as fit?

And here's my last question: Can you be both fit and fit? Do you have to be healthy to be regarded as hot? Or can you be one and not necessarily the other?

The questions seem pretty random huh? Well I'm hoping these questions are making you think.

Here's my issue: a lot of people seem to put their appearance before their health. Some people seem to be under the impression that it's O.K. to disregard their health because looking good is supposedly more important. People also seem to assume that being thin automatically makes you beautiful. I have one word in response to these views: BULLSHIT. (Excuse my French).

Your health should be one of the most important things. How does it make sense for it to not be important? I don't understand how your looks could be more important than your health. And to be honest, usually when you're sacrificing your health for your appearance it doesn't lead to you looking that great on the outside. If your body's suffering then your whole body is suffering; internally and externally.

Also, there are plenty of people that are skinny that aren't pretty. This is going to sound very harsh, but sometimes when you're ugly, you're just ugly and it has nothing to do with your weight. There's probably another way to make yourself look prettier. Something that will amplify your good points. Just like how certain styles of clothing helps to hide some things, it also highlights other things. This is definitely something every girl knows and finds out. Once you find out what works well with your body then you're on your way to helping to boost your confidence and feeling less insecure. This is also the same for makeup. Remember, your looks and your weight aren't always related to each other. They don't always god hand-in-hand.

Even people that thousands classify as 'drop dead gorgeous' has body complexes. Yes, celebrities like Beyonce and Scarlett Johansson have insecurities.  Surprised? Why? Because they're famous? Are they not allowed to have insecurities too? They're human. They might be famous and we might put them on a pedestal but even they can't love everything about themselves.

This reminds me of a scene. It's annoying because I can't remember what movie or drama it's from, and Google isn't helping me either. But I distinctively remember a scene where a girl writes  all of her insecurities on a mirror. She writes and draws like how a surgeon draws over their patients before plastic surgery. And another character finds the girl in front of the mirror and is stunned by what she's written. Like, "how could you think those things?" It's sad but we all think horrible and negative things about ourselves right? We never see ourselves the way other people do. Whether it's when you're directly looking at yourself in the mirror or just reflecting back on yourself as a person.

I kind of hate who I'm quoting here, but I'm not going to deny that it's a great quote.

Yes it's natural and normal to have insecurities, but you should never ever think so strongly that you let it rule your life. You shouldn't focus purely on your weaknesses or insecurities. That will just amplify your negative thoughts and you'll be stuck in a vicious cycle. I've been there. It's not worth it.

Those thoughts shouldn't rule our world. If you're really upset about it, then do something about it. Whether that's losing weight, dying your hair, changing your fashion, getting surgery or whatever. If that's what you really want. If that's what it takes for you to be happy and a bit more confident. But never, ever let it change you to become more insecure or become so obsessed that you lose all logic. Choosing to starve yourself or go to extreme lengths to achieve your goal. If you disregard your own health or finances then it's a very big and clear sign that you have a problem. A problem that can not be solved by dieting or surgery or whatever. It's a problem that you need to sort out by strengthening your own mental mind-set.

If you're going to assume that this is easy for me to say all of this because I'm thin or because I don't feel a need to wear makeup or anything, then you haven't taken in anything I've written and you're also one of those people that reinforces all of the things that I've said is wrong with people and their perception of the what's 'beautiful'. I can't help that I'm thin. I've always been naturally thin. Make-up doesn't make me look much different. It can't enhance beauty that's not there so I don't bother. I have a lot of insecurities. I have never thought much of myself.

The bottom-line for me is this: If everyone's meant to be pretty, then everyone's meant to be average looking. If everyone's on the same scale then that's the norm. There's nothing wrong with looking average, and there's nothing wrong with having body insecurities. That's also normal. One thing that I accepted a long time ago was that no matter what I changed or tried to improve about myself, I'd never going to be happy. 

There's always going to be something else you wish was better. You can say "I'd be happy as long as ........... was different / bigger / smaller / slimmer / better ...." But let's face it, that's a lie isn't it? As soon as you reach your goal weight or get surgery or change something there's going to be something else you wish was different. That's why I gave up trying to change mys outer-appearance a long time ago. And I just think that if I get a boyfriend then he's going to have to deal with the fact that I won't always make an effort to look nice and the way I naturally look. No girl, that I know of anyway, can be bothered to make an effort to look nice every minute of every hour. I definitely can't. I'm too lazy.

I'm not going to be with a guy that wants me to look nice all of the time. He'll have to see me when I look crap, just woken up, when I'm sick, crying and whatever. So I just think he should get used to the way I look. If he doesn't like how I look then sure it's a shame but if I'm not willing to make the effort for myself I won't make a constant effort just to impress him.

Just remember, you're only human and we all have flaws; some that other people see and accept or not, and those that only you see and take notice of. Don't automatically assume being skinny makes you beautiful. It doesn't. Don't go O.T.T. to try to look beautiful. It's not worth it.

(By the way, if anyone could possibly tell me what movie or drama I wrote about that would be awesome. It's starting to annoy me a bit ...)