A Man's Mind vs. A Woman's World

Conversation between two friends:

Woman: You know it's the thought that counts?

Man: I know that much. I just don't know what to get. Can you give me some ideas?

Woman: OK. There are two ways you can put thought into it.

 1. Buy her something that's personal. Something that's specific to her. Like something she's been wanting for ages or her favourite perfume or something to do with her interests ... It shows that you actually pay attention to her and know her well.

Or

 2. Something really romantic. Go out of your way to be romantic. Like buy her 100 roses for your 100 day anniversary. 

Man: What is she going to do with 100 roses? They'll just die and she'll just throw them away. Why would I give her dead roses?

*Woman goes wide-eyed and laughs*

Woman: You don't give her roses that are already dead ...

Man: And where would I pick 100 roses?

*Woman laughs more*

Woman: You don't pick 100 individual roses yourself. You call a florist and order 100 roses ... Or if you want to be really thoughtful and buy something personal AND be romantic, find out her favourite flower and order 100 of those.

Man: They'll still die ...

This is an actual conversation that I've recently had with my friend. I found it hilarious. It just highlights the differences between how a man thinks and how a woman thinks.

I've given many guys advice over the years. I really feel for men when they have to deal with women. Sometimes I pity them ... They do have to put up with a lot from us (and vise versa). Our minds work differently and they never know what to do. And in all honesty, they don't stand a chance!

It's true, women are irrational and hormonal and a bit crazy. BUT, I must add, there is a way to understand women. The only problem is, it's an illogical logic. Only women can understand women. Let me give an example.

If a girl isn't talking to you it could be one, a few or all of these reasons:

1. She simply doesn't want to talk to you.
2. She's playing hard to get.
3. She wants attention. She wants you to make an effort and talk to her first.
4. She's testing you. How much do you like her? Do you care? Have you noticed she hasn't been talking to you? Do you want to talk to her as much as she wants to talk to you?
5. She's playing mind games. She wants you to suffer a bit so that you'll appreciate her more.
6. She's stubborn.
7. She's thinking. She might need space to think and work out her thoughts. Either about you or about other things.
8. It's not about you. She's busy or something's going around her head so that she doesn't have time for you right now.
9. She's pissed or upset with you.
10. She's being stupid. She might be sulking or trying to be clever somehow but failing miserably.

The list could go on. Like I said, girls are difficult to understand but there is a logic behind our way of thinking. You've just got to work out the girl well enough so that you can understand where she's coming from. Understanding doesn't mean agreeing. You just need to empathise. If you can't do that, then you're pretty screwed to be honest. Every girl, like every person, appreicates it when somebody tries to listen, understand and empathise with them.

Finding The Right Career Path

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What's your dream job? Do you know what you want to do? Have you always known? Or have only just recently discovered it? 

I was a typical child. I had a big imagination, and used to think about and imagine all sorts of things. I'd thought and dreamt of doing all sorts of jobs. I wanted to be a singer (I'm unbelievably tone deaf! Like those bad singers on X Factor that says they're the next Whitney Houston, except I actually know that I can't sing), a writer (absolutely loved books, being creative and I wrote a lot of stories), a designer (my sister and I used to draw dresses. She's a lot better than me. I just drew big, O.T.T. princess dresses), an actress (had a big imagination and thought acting was an escape from normal, mundane life) etc... Yeah, I was a really weird and random child. Now I'm a really weird and random adult ...

It wasn't until High School that I decided and committed to one job idea; to become a teacher. It was the only idea I didn't find any faults or lose interest in. I liked school, I liked helping and teaching my friends, I loved interaction and being creative, and still do. It made sense to me. I understood the need for good, capable teachers and the importance of them. I had some lovely teachers and I had some bad ones. I had a few that had a big influence on me and one in particular changed some of my views on life. Those teachers are why I wanted to become a teacher. Teachers can really have a big impact on a kid's life.

Unfortunately it's only now, 10 years later, that I've discovered that while I love teaching and I'm good at it, it's not a career path that I want to pursue. 

So lately I've been asking myself: "What kind of career do I want?" "What career path do I want to pursue?" Dangerous and mind-boggling questions that everyone asks themselves. I've been searching for these answers for a really long time now. I had doubts before coming to Korea, and now I'm certain I don't want to be a History teacher anymore. I've gone through various trains of thoughts.

First I just looked at different teaching options as it was my original plan and it seems to be the only thing I'm qualified for. It's what I've wanted to do for so long that all I did was gear my experiences towards teaching; leadership course, communication module, mentoring, tutoring, teaching English as a foreign language ...

However, it's not something I can imagine myself pursuing and sticking to, or even enjoying. These are three really big deal-breakers for me. While I think everyone has to do things (small jobs and actual jobs) they don't like out of necessity, I'm not willing to pursue a career I won't follow because it isn't necessary. Yes, I need a job. Yes, I need money. Yes, I need to work out what I want to do with my life. But no I don't have to pay and do a post-graduate in something I don't intend to use enough to get my money's worth out of it. No, it won't be financially beneficial. No, it won't make me happy. No, it's not my only option.

So I started to focus on my interests. I want a job that I'll enjoy so I started thinking about jobs that revolves around things I'm interested in. Although combining your hobbies with your job works for some people and sounds ideal, I can't really imagine it for me. My interests aren't necessarily something I'm good at or  

Now I'm focusing on job descriptions. I have a rough idea of what I want in a job. I don't mean salary, working hours, location or anything like that. I mean, I've worked out what it is that I love about my current job, what tasks and roles I'd like to do in a future job and what I'd be good at. I'm thinking more about what a job would entail, and if I fit the description and want to do those things. Rather than trying to find a 'dream job' and trying to fit myself into that role, I'm looking for a job that fits me and my personality.

I will write again if my method actually works, and to write about the outcome. Knowing what jobs you're capable of doing, what's your dream job and achieving it are all completely different things.